There are countless things I wish I knew about pregnancy and postpartum life. So I’ve decided to start a series where I talk about these things. I am basing these posts around my personal experiences and I am not a medical professional. This particular post is Things I wish someone told me: Postpartum Life
So this is the last post for this series as my son is almost 5 months old and I’ve basically caught up. Maybe a year from now I’ll continue with some updates to the series but realistically those will be posts of their own. This has been a fun one to write because I relieved some of the things I felt starting a year ago. A year ago I could not imagine being where I am now with the baby. I knew he was coming but I didn’t know how my body or my life would adapt and what it would all look like. So without any more waiting, here’s what I wish I’d known about postpartum life.
If you’d like to see a glimpse inside the world of my mom moments check out the other posts in this series:
- First Trimester
- Second Trimester
- Third Trimester
- Labor and Delivery
- C-section Recovery
You can still get stretch marks
I thought I’d done it. I thought I survived the apocalypse and come out of the bunker alive. I was one of the few fortunate women who escaped pregnancy with no stretch marks. I diligently coco-buttered my body every day from boob to thigh in hopes that I wouldn’t scar. And I didn’t—until I did. Once Little Love was born, I started getting post-baby stretch marks. Maybe the coco butter never really did anything or maybe it was bound to happen, but they are there. And it’s okay. I’m not going to sit here and pretend that they’re my favorite and I find them beautiful, because I honestly hate them. But they’ve shown what my body has gone through and truthfully I can get over that. At least they aren’t causing me pain.
There will still be pain
I thought once the pregnancy pains stopped and I healed from my C-section, I’d be home free. Well, I don’t have the exact pressing pains anymore, but I still wake up every day with all sorts of aches and soreness. I’m pretty sure this is because I spent a lot of time in the last trimester and first few months of my recovery not moving a whole lot. Now that my son is the weight of a truck, I’m finding it harder to just scoop him up. These are aches I can deal with most of the time, but I’m definitely looking to get into a workout routine again.
You don’t have as much time as you thought
I swore I’d have time to get so much done once Little Love was here. I knew he’d need to sleep a lot, but in the early days you’ll sleep during that time. And then he’ll sleep less and less and you’ll feel up to getting stuff done. I give myself a little pat on the back every time I can get the kitchen cleaned and the laundry done before my baby wakes up. Naps are little milestones you just have to look forward to in your day but they aren’t always promised.
Everyday is unpredictable
As much as my son and I have gotten a little routine down every day is still different. Some days he just wants to sleep most of the day. Others, he wants to play. Some days his tummy is a little gassy and poop gets everywhere, throwing everything off. You have to just learn to go with it.
Things will never be the same
And you won’t want them to be. I think this point doesn’t need to be said. Everything changes when you have a baby. You’ll miss and yearn for certain things (sleep, going out) but you’ll adjust and love (or sometimes learn to love) your new life.
I’m excited to see how the rest of our journey plays out, as this is only the beginning. Keep reading for more updates and mom moments.
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Happy days and see y’all soon!