I knew long before I had Little Love how the sleeping arrangement would go: we would room share for the first few months and when he was too big or we were ready, he would transition from his bassinet to his crib… in his own nursery. I left the phrase “the first few months” extremely vague. I didn’t want Husband to hear me say a concrete time frame and hold me to that. Still, the tension built as it became clear Little Love needed to move to his own space.During the last few weeks, I found myself annoyed at everything during bedtime. I would have to get LL completely asleep or else he’d wake up and start crying. If anyone made any more noise than a very low whisper, he’d wake up. At night, we would roll over in bed and he would wake right up. As a child who previously slept through the night, I was even more frustrated than I should have been and I wanted to murder my husband every time.
Finally Husband gently nudged that we think about moving the baby. I wanted to fight it because I feel so attached to the baby, but I knew that wasn’t healthy. I agreed and we began the process to get his nursery ready (because, oops was definitely not ready before he was born). So, I agreed, but not without a stubborn fight.
I didn’t fight with Husband about it—I fought with myself. I Googled “benefits of room sharing” and “SIDS risk in crib” over and over again. I finally had to accept that as he is already 4 months old (and a big baby), he is just way too big for his bassinet. The only thing that gave me peace of mind is knowing we have a monitor that can measure pretty much everything.
We were given the Angelcare 403 monitor set as a gift from my lovely Aunt and Paw Paw and I was thrilled to use it. The set comes with a sensory pad that goes at the bottom of the crib. It checks for “movement,” a.k.a breathing, sound and the temperature in the room. Basically it’s great for making sure my son is safe overall while he sleeps.
There are some complaints because the instructions say to put a wooden board under the sensory pad and one does not come with the set. Some complaints also say that the alarm will go off for no reason. I have not had this happen to me yet, but I’m sure it will.
I started slow by letting him nap in his crib and then transitioned to naps and over night. Almost immediately he started falling asleep on his own in a matter of minutes versus fighting me to sleep after many minutes. He also started rolling over. In the bassinet this would almost always mean he’d wake up because there wasn’t a lot of room for him to roll. In the crib, however, he’ll just fall back asleep most of the time. Because he sleeps on his stomach, however, I was nervous. But the doctor assured me this was safe, as he was doing it on his own. Having the monitor really helps in this situation.
Overall,I can’t say that I’m always going to be comfortable, but Husband and I have slept so much better and I don’t want to kick him. We feel like we have our identities back and our marriage back. While it’s bittersweet because I want my baby with me at all times, Little Love needs to learn small bouts of independence. I don’t want him to grow up thinking I’m smothering him because of what I want. This arrangement works out so much better and I really owe it to the monitor.
Do you have a monitor that you absolutely love? If you have the same one I have, how do you like it? I read mixed reviews; so let me know what you think. You can let me know in the comments below or on my Facebook, Instagram or Twitter.
Happy days and see y’all soon!