There are countless things I wish I knew about pregnancy and postpartum life. So I’ve decided to start a series where I talk about these things. I am basing these posts around my personal experiences and I am not a medical professional. This particular post is Things I wish someone told me: Second Trimester.
The second trimester was my absolute favorite. There are probably songs and poems dedicated to this stage. This is the time when pregnancy is beautiful and hailed and women are glowing and belong in a healthy hair commercial. But there are definitely downsides.I’ve already written about pre-pregnancy and the first trimester, but these are the things I wish I knew about the second trimester:
The added energy isn’t instant
I definitely had an increase of energy. This was the energy I was promised and I felt was owed to me. Every mom I encountered in the first trimester could only offer me the comfort of reassurance that the second trimester would be my promise land. Only, just like Moses, I felt like I was ostracized and never to see it. I can’t tell you when I received the energy; I can only tell you I noticed (in the third trimester) when it was gone. Luckily, the holidays were smack dab in the middle of this trimester so I was able to venture to the mall countless times. And I started a taxing new job during this period as well.
Beautiful skin, hair and nails—Oh My!
For each woman this is probably different but something about this time is when my hair stopped falling out and my skin started to clear up. I think this is when woman look the most “pregnancy glow” of all. These were side effects I could rally behind.
Morning sickness may or may not go away
I luckily stopped my routine morning sickness in the first trimester. I still had pesky pop ups of morning sickness through my second trimester. It was rare but would hit me out of nowhere. The great thing about my added energy was that I could typically bounce back from these episodes with minimal fuss. Occasionally I’d have to go to an ER clinic to receive fluids but that leads me to…
I received more infections?
I’m not sure that this is exclusive to the second trimester but I faced more UTI diagnoses (the full labs sometimes came back negative) than ever. I think I had about 3 or 4 total in my pregnancy but most of them were in the second trimester. It’s pretty common and I was just unlucky. My doctor told me just not to hold my bladder when I had to use the restroom and make sure to drink water. I defended my honor by exclaiming I drank the MOST water and peed the MOST I could—both are true.
You find out the gender!
Gender, the common term, but you know what I mean: you find out if you’re carrying a mini-you or a mini-baby daddy. I knew that typically this is revealed around the 20-week scan but if you’re lucky like me, you find out earlier. What I didn’t know is how you could discover this before the mid-point anatomy scan. I learned at 13 weeks because I was having a scan on my kidneys (see UTI situation above) and the sonographer told us. She also said not to take her word for it, but I held on to that. I ended up having blood work to rule out abnormalities and I had no clue they could decipher the gender. Turns out the sonographer was correct!
Kicks aren’t kicks
Well, not yet. I kept reading that with first time moms, a kick feeling shouldn’t be expected until weeks 16-25. So imagine my surprise when I kept feeling swirls at 13 weeks. My doctor thought I was full of it but as I learned later in my pregnancy, I felt everything because of my baby’s position/ my weight/ etc. Swirls, or “flutters” as many women call them, are the first feelings of the baby moving. To be fair, I remember clear as day being 16 weeks 2 days when I felt the first legitimate movement. I was walking to the kitchen holding a candle when it felt like Uncle Sam pointed out of my uterus. I almost dropped the candle.
I hope this helps any woman thinking of motherhood in her future or approaching the second trimester. Be sure to follow all my social media (links on side and/or top of browser).
Happy days and see y’all soon!