Little Love is heavy. He’s a substantial baby. I am a weak, weak person. In my adult life I have always been on the punier side. This makes transporting him a tad difficult when I’m by myself. I can still carry him comfortably enough for short periods of time; when I’m running errands, however, I need an efficient way to shuffle him around.
This is where baby carriers come in—or so I thought. I’ve been through 3 of them by now. I’ve seen other moms and some dads wear their babies like a badge of honor, but I just feel so uncomfortable in them and my son either hates them or can sense my discomfort and nopes out of there as fast as he can.
There are pros and cons to many different carriers. I tried the kind with soft fabric, as I have heard those are better for the baby’s posture and comfort. For me, not so much. I also tried a more traditional one, which was more comfortable for me, but my son hated it.
The first one I tried was a Boba. Now, it’s not fair to say I tried it. It was a gift at my baby shower. But 2 weeks postpartum and still cringing at the thought of a feather grazing my tummy, I panicked and barked at my husband to take it back. Husband has zero intention of trying a baby carrier, as he’s very tall and strong and can handle the stroller.
Which leads me to my next point: I can’t use our stroller by myself either. I’m just way too weak. I’m trying to build my strength back up. Until then, I have to come up with another solution because one attempt of me with loading the stroller, and I ended up at the doctor, with a pulled muscle and orders of rest/ medication.
I decided to try another wrap, at the suggestion of my MIL. I got the Moby, much like the Boba. I tried for weeks to tie that thing properly, and most of the time it would just fall off. It was like the equivalent of Charlie Brown’s sad ghost costume to everyone’s perfect ghost costume. I ended up throwing in the towel.
In a last ditch effort, I tried a more traditional carrier: an Infantino Gather. It was easy as pie to set up but once I placed Little Love in it, he screamed. And now he’s 15 pounds and I have no desire to feel worse than I did when I was heavy pregnant.
So what’s a gal to do? I extensively looked into umbrella/ lightweight strollers, ya know, so I don’t throw my back out. Most say that your child needs to be about 6 months. I purchased one as such, and seeing as how my son is just about to turn 3, I’m SUPER hopeful he’s as ahead of the curve as all parents think their special snowflake child is. I haven’t used it with him yet, as I’m a desperate parent, not a bad one. I’m waiting for him to get a bit more control of his neck and core. Or until I can get more control of my neck back and core (ha ha).
As for now, I’ll be a homebody who can’t leave unless it’s a quick trip or someone is with me. What do other parents think about baby carriers? What are some brands that work the best? Or are others as desperate as I am? Let me know!
Happy baby wearing and see y’all soon.